Writer's Block: Kids or child-free?

Whether you've chosen to have children or live child-free, how and when did you (or will you) reach this decision? If you're in a relationship, did you (or will you) decide separately or together?

I am married and my husband, and I have chosen to remain childfree.  I believe that I, personally, reached the decision not to have a child ever in life when I was possibly around 26 or 27.  I think my husband, before we got married, had no inclinations one way or the other.  Then, he and I kept our great-niece when she was 5 months old for 3 weeks, and that pretty much CEMENTED my personal decision to remain childfree, and my husband then decided at that time he didn't want a kid either.

I wanted to add that I got sterilized 6 years ago by undergoing the Essure procedure, so no "happy accidents" here.  Hubby has thought of getting a vas, but has not taken action, so that's why I made the swift decision to get Essure.

Writer's Block: Snark, who goes there?

Have you ever said something to an online friend that you would never say in person? Do you think it's easier to discount real feelings when a relationship takes place largely online? Can the emotional disconnect become habit-forming?

I guess for me, it's easier to "type" out my thoughts most times than express them verbally. I do think that if you have a relationship online with someone that, depending on the people involved, feelings can be discounted and misconstrued. I don't mind starting off a friendship online, but I would eventually expect to hope to meet that person offline at some point and continue the friendship. I think some people get confused between the online persona and the REAL person typing out text on the computer. Also, a person can be more popular online than in real life and some people will choose to stay there and build their whole life on that online persona, and when that happens, it can become habit-forming. Hell, the internet in and of itself is habit forming, but I digress. ;)

Writer's Block: Friend indeed

Are there any must-have traits, such as intelligence, humor, and integrity, that you look for in potential friends? Have you ever made exceptions? How did it work out?

Must have traits are definitely as above - integrity, loyalty, very good sense of humor, intelligence, spontaneous, fun-loving, stable and sound in mind, heart, body and soul and DRAMA-FREE! I don't ever recall having made exceptions to this!

Writer's Block: I'm with the band

If you could be a member of any musical group, past or present, which group would you choose and why?

I've always felt like I belonged in a different era, anyway, but I think I would have wanted to be a part of The Supremes or Martha and the Vandellas or any girl group back in the 50s and 60s. I felt the girl groups of those times represented class, beauty, fun and TRUE talent. The girl groups of today are definitely less about class and talent and more about showing off their ASSets and a lot of sexual themes in their songs. In my humble opinion, the last great girl group was En Vogue. I would have liked to even been part of that group.